FRIENDSHIP

[talhaenzo]

assalam o alaikumFriendship is the cooperative and supportive relationship between two or more people. In this sense, the term connotes a relationship which involves mutual knowledge, esteem, affection, and respect along with a degree of rendering service to friends in times of need or crisis. Friends will welcome each other's company and exhibit loyalty towards each other, often to the point of altruism. Their tastes will usually be similar and may converge, and they will share enjoyable activities. They will also engage in mutually helping behavior, such as the exchange of advice and the sharing of hardship. A friend is someone who may often demonstrate reciprocating and reflective behaviors. Yet for some, the practical execution of friendship is little more than the trust that someone will not harm them.

Value that is foundm in friendships is often the result of a friend demonstrating the following on a consistent basis:
the tendency to desire what is best for the other
sympathy and empathy
honesty, perhaps in situations where it may be difficult for others to speak the truth, especially in terms of pointing out the perceived faults of one's counterpart
mutual understanding


but are the friends of today are really "FRIENDS"


well just wanted to share my personal experience and wanted some advice on it too.


i have many "friends" but out of all 99 % are not the friends that the above two passages describe. all of them were classmates and we have been together for 5 years almost.with time i noticed a distance grew between us. weeks passed by without any calls or even message.even on eid none met me but the all got together. i used to take the initiative and call them but they never did. many times i tried to find something wrong in me bugging them but when i talked to them they said that nothing was wrong. my uncle had past away and none of my friends came to me to though they knew what had happened and though i was always with them in their happiness and sorrows. then at college we had elections and guess what no friend of my showed up to support me except for two whom i regard as friends. a group that was so close is now acting so strange and iv noticed that many times they get together without me. recently all of them gathered at a friends brother's walima but they never even told me. well im not alone but there are many other guys that has left the group due to some reason or the other.the other thing i noticed is the vulgarity the smoking and all the indecent activities that they have started eg looking at girls(negatively) and talking bad things about them. most of them have adapted the policy of tit for tat. i dont know what has happened to these so called friends and i fell a little scared that would happen in my time of need. pls suggest me some friends tips and ways to recognize true friends. and share your experiences too.


peace and long live Pakistan


Allah Hafiz

[Storm]

honestly speaking, true friends are hard to find. i've been back here in PK for 10 years now and have only made 3 true friends since then. the rest are just aquaintances.

[khurem]

It mainly has to do with luck. I've seen guys n girls who are really undeserving, still have loads and loads of true friends who are there for them whenever they need them, but in return they dun care about anyone of them even. On the other hand Ive seen guys n girls who are great as a person and as a friend they are always there, but they usually dun have many friends and in times of need unfortunately they have noone even.


All I can say is if you have many true friends, well you are lucky.

[bango]

There are only two types of relationships - blood relationships, and business relationships.

Anything apart from that is just a mirage. Pay as you go, treat people adequately, and keep your greed in limits and you'll be well off even with 'just aquaintences'.

[riz_]

Originally Posted by bango

There are only two types of relationships - blood relationships, and business relationships. Anything apart from that is just a mirage.

I must disagree with this assumption. There are true friendships amongst people not related by blood. I have had the honor to enjoy it and so does numerous other members of this site.


True friendship is not really a quantifiable asset. There are certain values and qualities in such a relationship that makes it a true friendship; trust, mutual respect, understanding each other’s flaws and virtues, just to name a few.


Having a true friend is a mutually exclusive relationship that transcends any racial, religious and political divides. It is a blessing and should be cherished and enjoyed as such.

[TrueEye]

I believe true friendships are restricted to the movie world only, at least in this day and age...


My philosophy revolves around the fact that if someone asks for me, I return the favour in a more generous and kinder way.. But if someone doesnt, I couldn't care any less then.. I've much better things to do in life than to worry about some retarded friendships.. way to go!


and friendships are only meant to pass time, dont get yourself too involved in them..


A piece of advice:


Always expect less from others and you wont have to face disappointment then..

[talhaenzo]

for TRUE EYE
well true eye that is a really valuable peace of advice, thanx alot. not looking far behind my dad and chachus have great friends who are always there for them but i think now a days people (majority) has become too materialistic.

[zia1288]

I've had my best relationships outside my family n bussiness relations. True friends are really hard to find but i've been lucky in this case.

[s55]

Friendship is nothing but give and take.

[qwertypoiu]

well i have 5 friends(best buddies)

out of these 2 are the ones i meet almost daily and there is nothing materialist in this friendship.

and the other 3 we just keep in touch and try to meet up once in a month due reasons of business.

Note:
they were my class fellows when i was in 6th class and we are still connected.

and there are ppl in this world who dont deserve friendship because they Suck.

but having a good friend depends on you. if you are a good only then you will get good friends other wise you wont.

well this also depends on family of the person.

[s55]

qwertypoiu
I am still connected to old friends from school, college, university and neighborhood. One of them is a friend since class 1. Yesterday I went to a friend who was with me in Dehli College, we met after a really long time. But you know what I really don't feel there is any such thing as true friendship. And TrueEye is right it's just time pass.

Having said that, may be I don't understand the meaning/definition of friendship since there have been plenty of characters in my life in the form of friends who have stood for me in bad times and they never took a favour in return though I always wanted to. Some special characters I cannot forget. May ALLAH bless them. Aameen.

[rusty_racer94]

I Never got anyone whom I could call a true Friend
Since my Childhood I have changed 5 school (5 houses) And it keeps on happening over and over !!
And some people are really cheating losers !! (N)

[wik_a]

A true friend is simply a person with whom you can discuss your matters that bother you and get a sincere advice in return, one who's your back in your good and bad times. Thats all about it. I've got a few of this sort and I call them my true friends.


Don't know what you guys expect from TRUE FRIENDS. There is nothing more to it.

[s55]

I would like to mention my friend since class 1. His name is adeel and he is passing 1 module every year we are friend since 1991 that's like 18 years of friendship, 3 years before rusty was born

[rusty_racer94]

:O

[wik_a]

module of?

[s55]

Well, I have this strange habit/thing. I never share all matters with one friend. I discuss something with each of them that the other don't know about. May be because not everyone is perfect so some are good at something while others are at something else.

[s55]

Sorry modules of CA.

[wik_a]

LOL thats still better

[s55]

Now my time to watch Terminator Salvation and District 9