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Salaam to everyone. i have been a member for a long time but hardly ever posted a forum. this is the first in a few months. the reason why i write to all of you is because im having serious problems. family problems. i know this is not car related but i have none to discuss this to, you no how stuff spreads in the desi community.
anyway, im having problems with my dad. i shouldnt say this but i hate him. the reason is because he is mean, doesnt give a sh*t about anythyn, and talks behind our back. by our i mean me and my mom. they are having issues for a long time and my family is falling apart. my dad hates my mom, but i stick up for her because i no she is rite, so he hates me too. he doesnt want us to meat people and do anything. he has creates money problems in our house everytime. im not sayn that he is poor or anythng, as a matter of fact he is cheap. he doesnt want us to enjoy freedom or anything like that. he hates it when we use his car. as an example, my mom wants to g2 pk and he is not going to pay for the ticket. i decided to use my credit card and pay for that. we had to make the passports so i borrowed his car, after fighting and all that junk, and went to toronto to the canadian hq on yonge street. i live in barrie so its about 45 mins to toronto. we get their and we forgot somethin back home, so i drive back to barrie AND THEN back to toronto. he finished work at 5.00pm and we were late becuz i was stuck in traffic. i told him to hitch a ride with a friend and hen lost contact. i get home, at 6, exhausted, after making two trips to toronto. i get home and ask my sister if he got home. she said no, he is walkin. so i rush out and went to get him. (i was late becaus of the traffic, an accident occoured on the HWY 400),,, i spotted him walking on the side of the rode, urned my car around and let him in. but wat did he do? he told me to walk back home. i started walking and after about an hour n a half he came "lookn for me", he told me to get in the car, i told him no, im walkn home now that he has kicked me off. he gave me shit and drove away, not to our house, but our family friend's house. there was a group of his friends their " my "uncles" you no, and he told every1 that i fought with him and got off the car. you now how it is with the desi community, he shattered my and my mom's izzat, becuz he tells every1 that my mom doesnt treat him rite and so on. blah blah. i came home and told my mom what happened. she told me to foget about it and concentrate on my schhol, noy that im going to uni. he came home and went upstairs and talkd on the phone of what i had done today. pissed i went up and said that he has a serious problem, he yelled, gave me shit, told me to take my mom and get the f*ck out of their. write now, as i write, he is the only person i hate in this world.
but if you think that is it, theres more. today, on may 25, he got up and ate 5 toasts. by this time, we had my moms friend over from toronto. about 4pm, rite before i work, he went into the kitchen, where my mom's new friend was sitting iwth her, and rolled the salunn in the roti. my mom told him to take a bowl, he said he wouldv if she cooked earlier on, but the fact is that the food was ready but he was too buzy on the phone talkn sh*t. they had a little argument, while my mom's friend watched, and he walked out and called her a F8ckn B1tch. i just wanted to pop his face open. on the way to work, he gave shit, made me feel like it was all of my problem, and swore his head off and told me i cant use his car and get out of the house. i went to wrk, an hour earlier and coudnt stop thinkin of his stupid acts. what a b8stard.
today, still on may 25th, i got off work at 11.00 pm. he fought with me and said i couldnt use his car, so i hitched a ride with a girl who works with me after waiting for 45mins. i com home and told my mom what happened today in the car. after talkn, she asked where my dad was, i said i dont know, i got a ride from some1. she said that he came home but he went to pick me up again. write now, he he just walkd in the house, slammed the door really hard, walkd rite pass me without looking at me, with hatred, and went to his room and closed the door...
i really want to move out but i cant. because i dont have the money to do so. guys im not askn for money. im askn for proffesional help. should i move out and pay 800$ month minimum, altough i wrk part time and make about 650$/month.
i have no choice. i hate seeing his face and he hates seeing mine. i dont have the money to support myself on my own let alone my mom, since he wants her out to. i dont want some council help, becuz i dont want whats left to go away. the remaining bond within us that makes us atleast live together, eventhough we dont talk or get along. you know how the desi community is, things get spread and bounced around like ppl have nothing to do. i dont want to go to the government becuz he may get into trouble with the police, becuz thats assault and stuff like that. i guess i still have sympathy for him sonewhere in my heart.
i think we got a burrey nazar from a hater. i have no idea what to do, im probably going to go crazy. its a fckn zoo in my house. he doesnt talk and hates us. he doesnt respect any1 and is a liar. i want to do something in my life and be something. he is a maniac. when he gets angry he freaks out, starts hitting walls and stuff, tryin to scare us so we dont talk back. he has no respect for me or my mom. i just want to get out but i cant afford it. im 18 years old, and soon goin to USA for parhai. i have an appointment for a loan this monday, on may 27th, so i can apply for a loan, since he has completly cut me off. im in deep sh8tttt. i want to get out. im 18 years old, and sometimes i have tears in my eyes, thinking what he has done to me and my mom.
as i write rite now, i have gathered all the courage i could. im always scared. i dont want him to go "off", not becuz im scared, but i dnt want ny1 to get hurt, cuz i no i may punch his face out.
i dont want to right to you all, but i have no choice. im going to go to sleep write now, so reply as much as possible with as many solutions as possible. i will keep this forum alive by replies.
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