First of all sorry for your loss,
You and i face the same scratch syndrome and can not even bear a tiny scar on our vehicles. Unfortunately people don't realize how hard it is to buy such valuable items and they ruin it just for the sake of fun. :S
Firstly post pics of the damage, secondly show it so a professional detailer. It might be curable, and if not then two things can be done.
1, Very lightly kalamed and then sanded to be mixed with original paint.