Jazak Allah, thread starter brother. This is something we all Pakistanis need to SERIOUSLY thing about RIGHT NOW. We are all in this together, we are all in the same boat, no matter where in the world we live.
REALIZATION is the first step toward correcting the bad behavior. We all need to stop everything and whatever we do normally and STOP and think seriously about what things we do everyday. This is very SERIOUS and very CRITICAL matter for each and every Pakistani if we want to Save Pakistan, now is the time and we may not not have much time left. Think about it Seriously, before something really terrible happens and Azaab of Allah (SWT) is sent upon Pakistan. There have been many Warning by Allah (SWT) to Paksitanis, the 2005 Earthquake, the Harsh and Corrupt leaders (yes they are a warning sign, for us Pakistanis to do something and to change ourselves), the Flood of 2010. The Severe Weathers, etc.
I have lived in US now for 20+ years and seen and lived thru so many expriences where you see and realize why America is a Super Power. Most of its citizen are Good human beings and are Humble beings. True there are some bad people, but I have not come across an Arrogant, Selfish, Ghoonda Badmaash, Person, when it comes to Public Behavior and how the Americans behave with one another on day to day basis, in schools, at jobs, at the Market.
I learned here in US, what true meaning of Dignity is. It is doing the right thing, even when NO ONE IS WATCHING. I have seen this with my own eyes, how these people behave, as if they are aware that even when No person is watching, God, Allah (SWT) is always watching, even the Secular liberals ones.
You have listed what makes us Pakistanis look so bad at front of the world. I will try to list, what a Country we like to make fun of in Pakistan, America's common people do. Maybe if we have any self respect we can learn from these people.
1) You don't see any person, official or private party practing Rishwaat, or demanding it.
2) People clean up Outside the Houses with Brooms, (Jhaaroo). Leave rakes to clean up the leaves. Put yard waste in proper Brown Paper bags, neatly arranged and cleanly stacked. And these included highly educated, Doctors, Engineers, Pharmacists, or even common person.
3) People wash their own Cars, (yes they have automatic car washes too), but many people, no matter what they are, Doctor, Engineer, etc. You will see them wash their own cars, on a nice Sunny day. They don't feel embarrased by what their neighbor would think.
4) You don't see, Vip Culture here. Even if you are a High ranking member of Congress, you will pay for your own ticket on the Airline, drive you own car, and their children do the same.
5) Most Americans are truly very Humble. I am talking about the average people here. They do not Show off or flaunt their Corollas, Civics, or even Mercedez Benz. No arrogance.
6) Almost all of the Americans pay their Taxes Honestly. The taxes are what you pay to get the proper Police Service, the proper Schooling system, the proper High Ways and Streets with Lights, the library, the Fire Brigade service, the Court System, etc.
7) Many people if they see someone trying to break the law, they will do their best to stop that person. They will report anything unusual, if they see some criminal trying to break into an un-occupied house the person who sees or observe such act, naturally feels inclined to act. If they can stop that person physically and have the means (concealed weapon, gun, they will stop that person), but most people atleast will call the Police right away. They are not Tamashaa Been (like most of us Pakistanis).
8) If you are entering a Building and there is person who is ahead of you and has opened the door of the building and you are also Behind that person maybe even 10 or 15 feet away, most people will hold the door for you, and keep the door open for you, most doors in Public Buildings Automatically Close, so a person has to hold the door for you, so you don't have to Open it again, just a common polite courtesy.
9) Thank you, Excuse me, God bless you, are all these nice words very commonly used when interacting with a stranger (instead of Gaali Galoach that you hear in Pakistan).
10) Most people do NOT stare, Gawk, look at each and every lady passing by with Mouth wide open and drooling like a wolf (bhairyaa), like they do in Pakistan. It is considered extremely impolite to Stare (looking constantly), at a strange lady here in America. You look foolish and stupid if you do that here, and see practically nobody does that here.
11) Traffic is extremely well organized. People use Pedestrian Crossing (zebra crossings in some places) and all cars must stop when there are people around at Zebra Crossing, usually around busy University roads where there are many students crossing streets.
12) Schools have specially Slow Speed Zones. When you approaching a School nearby, you have to slow down your car to around 25 to 30 MPH, during School hours and when a Yellow Caution Light is blinking, even if you don't see any students around.
The list can go on, but my fingers are now tired.. LoL..
The main point is that, many of us say bad things about other countries and cultures, and never realize why those countries specially the developed countries like America are so Far ahead of us. It is no wonder why, the above mentioned points are just a tip of the ice berg, to show where they differ, and the reason why they are making all the progress in the world, and why we the Pakistanis are so behind the whole world and number the Last in every category of progress. Look again at the reasons listed by the Original Brothers. Those are the main reasons.
Remember, God helps those who help themselves.... to become a better nation.