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Few days ago some body sent me a very nice email. It says 90-10 principles.
that PP presentation says if you work on this it will change your life. i can email you guys if any one wants it. now what it says.
now it goes like this.
10% of life is made up of what happens to you
90% of life is decided by you you react
What does this mean? we really dont have control on 10% what happens to us.
We can not stop car from breaking down
The plane will be late so whole schedule will be off
A driver may cut us off in trafic.
So we have no control over this 10%
the other 90% is different
You determine the other 90%
How? by your reaction
Example.
You have having a breakfast with your family your daughter knocks over a cut of coffee on your business shirt,
You have no control over what just happend
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse
you harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over she breaks down in tears.
after scolding her you turn to your wife and criticize her for placing a cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows.
You storm upstairs and change your shirt.
back downstairs you find you daughter has been too busy crying to finish her breakfast and getting ready to go to school, she misses her bus.
Now what hapend.
1- your spouse must leave immediately for work
2 - you rush to the car and drive your daughter to school
3 - Because your late your drive 40mph in 30mph speed limit zone
after 15 min delay and throwing $60 traffic fine , you arive at school your daughter runs into building without saying good bye .
after ariving 20 mins late to office you realize you forgot your briefcase .
Your day has started terrible , as it continues it seems worse and worse. you look forward to coming home.
When you come home you find a small wedge in your relationship with your daugter and wife.
why?
because how you reacted in morning.
why you had a bad day?
1 - Did coffee cause it?
2- Did your daughter cause it?
3 - Did policeman cause it?
4 - Did you cause it?
the answer is 4.
Here is what should have happend.
Coffe spashes over you, your daughter is about to cry
You gently say "Its okay, Honey your just need to be more careful next time".
Grabbing a towel you go upstairs and change your shirt you grab your briefcase you come down in no time to look throw thow the window and see your child getting on the bus.
She turns and wave. your arrive 5 mins early a cheerfully greet the staff.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios
both started the same way
both ended different
Why?
because of how you reacted
You really have no control over 10% of what happens in your life the other 90% is determined by your reaction .
Here is some ways to apply 90/10 principle.
If some one says some thing negative about you
Do not be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass you do not have to let the negative attack effect you.
phew a lot of typing its a long slide i just typed few points for you guys