Brother what kind of pole have you got, is it three wire auto pole with a round bottom or it is the manual four wire type with a plastic or metallic tube at the lower end.
Auto Pole
The pole fully extends and retracts while the power is cutoff automatically at each end of travel, you just need to push the switch (a push latch type switch)
connector 1:
white or white/blue
yellow/green or yellow/black
connector 2:
black wire bullet type connector
connection
permanently connect the black wire with the chassis. Attach white wire with battery power through a fuse and route the third wire i.e., yellow/green though the switch, the third wire must be powered from the key position ON/IG-I.
Operation:
when the the key is in IG-I position the pole will extend fully if the switch is depressed (only) and the light will lit up automatically at the end of the pole travel. If the switch is released or the key is moved to ACC or even turned off fully while leaving the car, the pole will automatically retract.
Manual Pole
The pole extends and retracts manually and the power has to be cutoff at each end of travel otherwise there is a possibility of damaging the pole. This is achieved whit the help of a unique rocker type switch with spring return on its each side so as to ensure that the switch remain in the middle resting position and the power remains cutoff.
Connector 1 (used to operate the pole):
yellow/white
yellow/red
Connector 2 (used to lit up the light(led) at the tip of the pole):
Red wire
black wire
Operation:
the pole extends if 12V is provided to yellow/white wire with respect to the yellow/red wire in the same connector. On the other hand the pole retracts if 12V is provided to yellow/red with respect to the yellow/white wire in the same connector.
The second connector is solely used to lit up the led light light at the tip of the pole, permanently connect the black wire the car chassis and the red wire wire with the parking light. This is will ensure that that light at the tip of the pole lights up only when the parking lights are on.
The second connector has to be routed through the pole switch.
Hold the pole switch in your hand in upright position so that the connector at the back of the pole switch is facing you. There are total 4 pins, consider the top left pin as pin 1, top right as pin 2, bottom left as pin 3 and bottom right as pin 4.
now connect the pins as follow:
pin 1 = ground
pin 2 = +12V from the IG-I
pin 3 = connect it with the pole yellow/white i.e., up wire
pin 4 = connect it with the pole yellow/red wire i.e., down wire
Important:
For the auto pole you can use any switch with at least two pins whose connections make and brake with the push/release (latching type) of the switch provided the new pole switch can be fitted in its original slot.
For the manual pole you have to get the oem honda manual pole (non latching type) switch or equivalent.
Regarding the connection with reverse polarity the auto pole may be prone to damage but the manual pole is designed to operate on reversing polarities. Whether the pole you have got is damaged or not it is necessary to know which type of pole is it?