1) your 1st point is about Engine oil, first of all honda dont have their own oils or refining or blending, they can use other companies oil with a wrap of their own name, so you go for Liqui moly, Caltex or some other, as the engine is now 10 years old you can go of 10W 40 grade, bcz a little thick oil can avoid any leakage if occur.
2) secondly as far as your milleage concern, change the plugs but it didnot effect your milleage it only improve to burn the petrol more efficiently, resultantly more spark more pressure, it have more pick. one of the member suggest here that change of spark eat more petrol, please note its an efi engine and efi always spray a continuous fuel, only new plugs burn them completely due to its enhanced spark as the previous one failed to produce.
3) go for honda checkup but your car only have a little bad mileage and more heat of engine according to you, but in my opinion you dont need any checkup.
4) i will share the maintenance schedule with you (but i have a schedule for honda 2015 model but i think most of the cars have same maintenance schedule and i also use the same for 2008 reborn)
5) your car is around 10 years old, please change the tyres bcz rubbers get hard bcz previous owner occasionally use this car, due to hardness of tyres your car produce friction sound, you can change the tyres then feel the comfort, michelin is best if you can use the tyres on plain roads for bumpy roads select some other tyre like dunlop or good year
6) auto lock doors are not understood, sorry for it
7) engine heat problem is only due to its fans or some fuse, please check both fans or AC and also without ac, you can find the problem if there is any, i also have 2008 reborn but keep it with you mind that you are driving a 1.8 engine not a 800 cc, big engine always produce a lot of heat
8) automatic engines are less responsive as compared to manual and your point 9 & 10, sorry for that
and lastly your fuel mileage concern, i am failed to understand that who recommend the HOBC in 1.8, civic reborn normally gives 9-10 km/L in the city with AC and 2013-16 model is more efficient with 12-13 km/L, your civic gives bad mileage there is some problem with your car, i use 92 RON petrol never use a hi-Octane (95-97 RON) in both models and 2008 model is very economical on long routs, it gives around 17-18 KM/L with AC and an average speed of 120-130 kms as compare to my Vitz of 1999 model which gives 16-17 km/L @ 120-130 kms. i read the adds on Pakwheels and number of people remarks here that civic reborn has a very bad milleage, but i think most of the people are those who never use this car.