Its about my present situation

[reachkhanhere]

Hello everyone out there, I hope you are all doing great. I am a very old reader of PakWheels forums and enjoy my time here. thank you everyone for adding greatness to this esteemed website. It's been some time since I have been thinking of posting here and asking for guidance way out. All the things I am putting down are personal to me but because I find no way out I would like to phrase my issues in a way where it would give a sense of my background and my current issue.

I have done my bachelor's in civil engineering currently doing a master's in the same field too.
I have failed to acquire a job since my graduation, no internship either.
I am married (no kids)
I am the eldest and there are certain responsibilities on me, or at least I find myself liable to them.
My father is a government, no property or investment or saving of our own other than his pension which is due in near future.
My better half supports herself from an entry-level job (I at times provide for her out of some last savings from our wedding)

I guess I have given a sufficient background. Now I want to add about my dilemmas

1: I am attracted to every new opportunity related or unrelated to my field.
2: I am preparing for css/pms as there are no opportunities and I feel i should try this too.
3; I have enrolled myself in a bundle of online courses related to online earning one being Sunny Ali vbc but havent found time to pursue it.
4: I apply to all the jobs that are posted govt, private name them all, govt tests I haven't passed till yet and never got a response from private.
5: I am 25 years old, i feel very much stressed because inside I am a very sensitve person and I want to excel and prosper.
6: My life revolves around my family and hence I am in a great pressure to give them good, I feel responsible for my brother and sister too that I am of use to them too and provide them support.
7: Right now my main issue is of finances, honestly speaking power or authority yes that is needed too but I want to be financially stable. I don't know what to do, the time I am giving to css/pms prep I feel if i learn online skills i will be able to earn more or prepare and enhance my own field as I have zero info of my field.
8: I am very easily attracted to opportunities and want to do all, how do I stop this thing and focus on something.

I am in very much pressure and despair, i am done blaming kismat too but really am upset with life, i see negativity all around.
sorry for this post and taking your time. I will love to answer more if anyone needs more details to better guide me or make me understand.
stay safe

I am sorry I am tagging people for genuine advice
@capsat @Xulfiqar and everyone else please

[nfssaad]

you are enrolled in VBC.

FIND THE TIME. FOCUS ONLY on VBC. nothing else. bunch of online courses will not be of help to you due to lack of direction.

sunny ali will mentor you and give you a direction. Ecommerce & its related services is the future now. forget about CSS.

[reachkhanhere]

thank you for your reply, I am easily attracted to knowledge and then don't find time to pursue it.

[uzeemujeeb]

is that also your post sir

Hard Time! HELP

Is civil engineering a good career to pursue?

[capsat]

Start with fixing your relationship with the SUPREME ALMIGHTY (swt) plenty of openings will follow

Your progress is known only to THE SUPREME ONE (swt) focus and start begging.
The therapy and the healing is also a process, but no book can give you best peace but the QURAN.

[sameerulhaq064]

one being Sunny Ali vbc but havent found time to pursue it.

Sunny Ali is a Cousin's friend and believe me his VBC is a Gold mine. Pay attention to it

[sameerulhaq064]

sunny ali will mentor you and give you a direction. Ecommerce & its related services is the future now. forget about CSS.

100% agreed

[pwuser151705762629]

Seems like you want to move with all your effort but don't know where. Your circumstance is similar to mine from some time back, have good education, have interest in different fields but unable to apply self in any ONE direction because time nahi milta. Its a common thing in people who are quick thinkers mind keeps jumping one place to next. I'll suggest you to FOCUS on ONE area, be it freelancing, be it vbc, be it your masters you have to PICK ONE and put your efforts in it. In sha Allah you will find success and find guidance and peace in prayer.

[reachkhanhere]

thank you for your beautiful advice, I follow your posts since many years and always learn from you. yes you are right in this despair I have been away from Almighty and am no satisfied with my ebadat. I shall make my bond stronger.

[reachkhanhere]

there is no backing off from the fact that the platform is authentic but actually this is a big step leaving your own field and starting this, I have a natural inclination towards business as i find it more rewarding but no idea what to do.

[reachkhanhere]

jazakaAllah for your humble response I am really in that phase, and its very much depressing too. I hope you came out of this situation well and are happy now. I will follow your advice.

[uzeemujeeb]

the silent period between graduation & the 1st job is seriously depressing and very natural sir. long time ago after my masters' i had the same issue i was on job hunt to follow a career and family pressure was for CSS. i was given an option by family if you strike a job 45 days before css exams take the job join it. ( it is our family trend since british empire to have 2 - 3 sarkari afsar in family call it ' pug syndrome' ) ironically CSS exams took place, in parallel also appeared in few job interviews afterwards without any success.

i was on top page at no 18 in list of CSS successors, not to my liking. There i'm not at job as per my education not as per my passion. am black sheep of the batch who trained at CSS academy. All my batch mates know am unfit to follow the traditional chain of command. The oper ki kamai mafia can not tolerate my approach to go by book operation.

The posting stations couldn't handle me more then 8 - 14 months. The Top show cause notice me and put me aside. However the public and masses are my success at every station i served and connected to people. as like common person tried to help them still to date they call and stay connected every now & then. However as Govt employee am like a football kicked here & there sometimes pushed in corner as spare ball in waiting.

relax and like a member suggested connect to The Ultimate Authority The King of Kings ( swt ) who love us more then our parents. Success will hit you by surprise soon inn shaALLAH

[sameerulhaq064]

Take a look at the AOE course at VBC, It'll help you get started.
Sometimes you have to get out of your comfort zone in order to achieve something

[pwuser151705762629]

Jazak Allah brother.....inspired by @uzeemujeeb just sharing my own story....after graduating in a field I did not know much about, I started a little freelancing but only around 12k-18k per month wasn't able to crack it to the higher end. Have faith, stay strong. My turning point came after a session of etikaf in ramadan, stay steadfast and keep praying. Finally got a government job which was a blessing in disguise, gave me skills and confidence, financial independence, and growth. From there life changed, started saving up a little here and there, invested in 2 businesses and suffered loss, kept doing it, got a better job and so on the journey continued. Last month purchased my first ever car Alhamdolillah.Did I ever imagine this path? No. Sometimes you just have to surrender your life to the Master of the Universe SWT and watch.

[reachkhanhere]

sir this means a lot to me, the way you opened up about your struggle and achievement. may Allah give you its reward and bless you with the best. Ameen. Your reply has not only given me hope but has also given me some good food of thought too. Will not get in details of the system, that is understood. I dont shy of working hard or starting from zero as this is already understood. Having faith is the most important thing to come out of this phase hopefully inshaAllah

[reachkhanhere]

I have started that. yes I am ready to do this, there is an ec meet up too I am planning to attend aswell

[reachkhanhere]

mashaAllah brother, may Allah give you more and more. Ameen thank you for going extra mile and writing to me about your struggles, Means a lot to me, yes InshaAllah making the bond stronger with Almighty will give me good I have strong faith on this,

[mgalaxy3]

Try to avoid CSS if you can but yeah make it the last option k koi to sarkari stable nokari mil Jae. its good sarkari nokari in the sense no tension of ever getting fired.

My advice? Please read..

If you like civil engineering, put all your efforts in finding a job for civil.

First, search up all the good construction companies and builders in your city or a close big city.

Visit each office.

Inquire about job opening if they have any or know of any.

Visit all the big companies.

Don't stop even if you have to visit 10-20.

Try to find references online on Facebook.

If you like engineering then finding a related job to your field will give you the greatest pleasure.

Not css or e-commerce.

If you can't find any civil job, you said you like business, then start from a small store .