The recommended gap (as i learned from senior members) is
Inlet: 0.06 - 0.08" (upper row)
outlet: 0.08 - 0.10" (lower row)
These are hot engine settings. Engine should be hot while you are adjusting the tappet.
The tool is called filler gauge, available at any auto hardware shop.
Tools required: 10mm socket, 12mm ring, screw driver, filler gauge.
Note: if your car's starting and pick is ok, then no need to fiddle with the setting. Khyber tappet does make a little metal on metal sound. Soundless means your tappets were too tight and may cause missing/low pick/ longer self etc
there is no doubt that if you want to do something right do it your self, but learn first (as you are)
good luck