Life has become too Hard

[danishmmh]

Well you are lucky to have a house and a car that you can sell, have seen worst.

For me I have always taken solace in the two ayats of Holy Quran whose translation summary is as below. I am writing this of my mind so please excuse the mistake in translation it is only to give you an idea.

After every difficulty there is relief , and indeed after every difficulty there is relief.

Allah does not burden one more than he can bear.

Personally we have seen times where used to have two meals a day and meat was luxury. So if Allah is testing you thank him, trust him, pray to him and keep doing your best

[dayrider]

even the sanest person can get pushed to his limits when his family is threatened

its always traumatizing when experienced for the first time but like everyone said, no point in worrying your head over something that you can't control.

Finding employment in these times is indeed difficult, lots of people got laid off, but that doesn't mean that we give up.

You talk about karachi people being crazy, well just think about the guy on the motorcycle, imagine what he would be going through, if you have lost so much and are struggling, imagine his thoughts.

The fact of the matter is that yes, life has become hard, people are finding it hard to coope, hence everyone is frustrated and on the verge of explosion. The best we can do in these times is make best of what we have and help those less fortunate than us, doing good results in getting good back, becoming stone cold is a sad fact these days, because emotions are considered a weak point and so is honesty.
But like everyone said, remain calm, pray, and as you said this too shall pass.

just a little tip, analyse what shows you are watching and what music you are listening to, change that to more positive things,it will relax your subconscious.

Best of luck bro, "may your news, be good news"

[nfssaad]

i used to think IBA was good....

wanted to do MBA from there..

[capsat]

I will consider relocating to my favorite city Islamabad

stay in Karachi if at all you choose move out look away from Pakistan.
in Pakistan a Karachi born, raised & educated can only survive & have peace outside Pakistan, within Pakistan he will go insane by the lethargy of locals any other city

@chinyoti your input please for 2 lines above.

[omersiddiqui5482]

@muhammad.irtiza dear i feel very sorry for you and hope that you cope with this unstable state of your ASAP. i have been to the Same University as You (You Know That) and Life at IBA has always been quite stressful, leave alone the Karachi's jackasses. you might remember i posted a thread on this traffic and jahalat situation in Ramadan i am also i should we all suffer from the same issues just the scenarios are different.

With the economy on a trend to bury itself in hell, situations like this occur to common people like us and these situations make us stronger than ever. i too had the same scenario as yours. Even in the first year of university i didnt had a car ( Your have been blessed with it) but in the second year Allah Blessed me with it with my own money..

You just have to have patience dear see the silver lining in every dark cloud. Work Very Hard as you always do and work even harder. Try to be a support to your Father stand by him. if he sees you in a depression like this imagine what will happen to him from the inside. you need to be strong, be independent, be the best you can be, you need to be can, assess every situation with a cool mind, give time to your studies, take care of your health and the best thing is to connect with Allah, Trust be i have been through a lot (I guess everyone who commented here has) but the one thing you will find similar in us all that helped us and sailed our ships out the stormy seas is Allah.

Let us face one reality, for now you cant relocate from this city and i dont need to point the reasons.... you need to be strong, be smart and you are not to lose your cool.

offer prayers regularly it will help you.

Listen to this i you have sometime, these two songs do give a bit a strength.

(these are not meant for you to hit the gym, waise gym is not a bad idea)

[shaikh229]

[automakerz]

Irtiza - patience and time will change you.

I know traveling in karachi is getting worst day by day - all this due construction of roads and heavy traffic. People loose their patience duo to xtreme hot weather.

I live near by IBA city campus, (you can come to my home any time) i am doing a job at I.I.Chundrgarh road and when i came back home in the evening - i am full of tiredness and Sweat. (i commute by public transport). Bike is not allowed by my parents and wife - taking car at I.I.Chundridarh is worst - (Lack of parking). some times i feel proud that when i came out from bus at Numaish or Soldier Bazar or Garden. i see people traveling to Nagan, 5 star, Surjani, 2K chorangi in this heat.

Alhamdulillah you have a Family - Home to live. Hard times do come in life and its gone. its a lesson and learning process. All of us have faced hard times - If we are lower, middle and upper class.

I studied at DHA college way back in 2000, there are lots of Burgers or Upper class people but do always keep in mind "its all Allah Wish". dont underestimate your self, time will change eventually.

All seniors at this forum will give you much better suggestions - do follow them. Allah is Great.

I am a big fan of cars since childhood and my aim was when i grow up will buy a car with my own money, Alhamdulillah with my parents good education provided to me, their Tarbiat i am able to buy a car in 2006 Brand new cuore from my own money. Now having a city car. All Allah blessing. I am nothing.

So - Love your parents and Keep Faith in Allah. you will Succeed in life. Good Luck.

Soon omersiddiqui, me and you will have a lunch at Cafe Darakshan opposite Amma Tower. Inshallah

[HellsGuardian]

Most of the seniors have pretty much summed up everything so i will not go through all of that again.

I currently live in Lahore and even though i have a good job, traffic conditions are same. Same jahil people who argue with you, tell you to come out of vehicle so they can exchange punches etc but ironically you don't even know why they are behaving in such a way. Reason is that they have never been groomed like us, we know what is right and what is wrong but they lack that sense. Second reason is that Pakistan awam in general is frustrated with all sort of problems (even you gave a list) so they take their anger out on road.
Best is to avoid any arguments with anyone on road because you know its useless, Xulfiqar bhai gave a good example.

Regarding your real issue, do not lose hope. Try to get into professional life and excel in it. Yes there are people who cut shortcuts using references etc but most people who are at good positions have a long struggle in their history.
Always know that your hardwork is never wasted. Right now you are facing hardships but it doesn't mean it will remain like that forever. Once you are at a good position career wise, you can considering moving to another city or even country but be ready to face challenges as we do not live in a perfect world. Some places might have a better traffic but there would be other flaws.

Life in Pakistan is indeed getting miserable, i sometimes think that we may be able to survive one way or another but what about our kids? For them future looks really bleak.

[capsat]

well just think about the guy on the motorcycle, imagine what he would be going through, if you have lost so much and are struggling, imagine his thoughts.

seems you have heard my mother's sermon somewhere !

[omersiddiqui5482]

dont get upset that you are not an earning hand right now, this is your time to study, get proper education and groom yourself professionally. think of it as an investment for the future which for sure is going to give you Capital Gain and Dividends. I hope This gain and dividend is not taxed by FBR.

[capsat]

others in the family can start giving tuition to the children, soon vacations will be over schools open new session starts and kids will be overloaded with school work. Start the campaign in neigborhood now keep charges affordable for neighborhood - do it with focus & determination.

every year 3 months ahead of exams i give tutions to class 9th & 10th students science subjects Physics Chemistry & Maths for free, no body have flunked it started in 2003 against some fee.

in 2003 when i had a my world came apart crashing overnight, i realized whats' desperation and why weak (as faith in ALLAH) people commit suicide - i started giving tuition against fee, for 3 years i charged.

Since exam season 2007 its for free to date.

[omersiddiqui5482]

@capsat sir Hats off to you. Salutations! this is what is called community service!

I too have taught at a Coaching and then in KU as a teaching assistant during my University days and I know teaching is not easy.

See @muhammad.irtiza we all have been through tough time may Allah protect us from such moments and situation. but you need to fight this. there is a alot of fight in you you just need to Face it. if you dont see the bloody silver lining in the stupid dark cloud then create one yourself.

[sleeper]

Be thankful for what you have....and always trust that better times are always ahead.
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You wont believe how angry i am when i drive on khi roads...one incorrect move by other driver and i get mad....the thing i do is blast my high pitch horn and say few words in my closed car....the other driver shows "laanat" or finger....i ignore and move on.
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I would say, lets meet up sometime soon....what say @omersiddiqui5482

[omersiddiqui5482]

Yes why not. Infact great idea....

I am habitual of flipping off at other drivers when they piss me off else i tend to listen slow music while returning home and be cool.

[Djaymx]

You’re just going through a phase of maturity where disappointments reign supreme and all the rosy dreams of existence fall prey to harshness of reality. The day you are capable enough within yourself to stop being affected by things that are out of your control will be the day you will fully mature. Faith in Allah will take you there much quicker!

[suhaibayaz]

Seeing replies of posts like these, given with utmost sincerity and care, make me respect the members and this forum even more.

Keep the camaraderie alive which makes Pakwheels the best forum of Pakistan.

You guys are awesome!

[capsat]

Don't you think it is all because of @HanifBhatti and we OWE him a BIG Thank you !

[HellsGuardian]

Indeed. I have a daily routine to check out forums since i joined. No interest in buying/selling cars, this community is what always kept me connected.

[khurem]

Well, you are quite young so just give yourself this allowance that you have yet to see a lot more in your lifetime.
Grass is always greener on the other side.

I've lived in Karachi, Lahore, Dubai, UK (for a v short time though), Islamabad, and currently back in Karachi. You would always think from news, acquaintances and people who haven't gone out of Karachi that people in other part of Pakistan are better. That's not the case however. There are some pluses some minuses everywhere you go in Pakistan. I won't go into detail about that however just know that people who live all their lives in Karachi would always judge Lahore from the news and the little they see without actually living there and interacting with the people there on daily basis. On the other hand, people in Punjab seldom travel to Karachi (nor they like to) as the reputation of Karachi in front of other Pakistanis is just like the reputation of Pakistan itself in West. It's all shaped by the media and actually it is a lot better than what is projected there.

There are tons of issues of living abroad these days for Muslims, especially Pakistanis who are generally looked down upon everywhere in the world you go to. But since you are getting better standards of living, you tend to accept your fate of living life there as a second rate citizen.

I also had a choice to live abroad and chose to come back. I used to regret just like you, but with time realized that it is quite futile to think what could have been and in fact a very wrong way to look at life. In reality, there's little one can do to change what's in the fate. A lot more can go wrong even in case you actually get what you desire.

The whole mindset can be changed if you just start being grateful, grateful for all the little and big things you get in life. Like you are in IBA, once you will graduate you have a lot of options to earn and improve your lifestyle. So already you are better than 99% of the youth living in Pakistan that have dim future ahead. Isn't that something to be thankful for?

Just learn to go with the flow and start accepting everything without getting too worked upon. Empathize. All the negative feelings will go away and you will start enjoying life. It's all in your mind, after all, the way you think about your life and other stuff are your own feelings. Take control of that!

[abid110]

Karachi's life is a living hell. its the same for an affluent citizen to a slummer. things are getting more and more difficult. you cannot keep an expensive car as there are always thousands of thieves everywhere ready to smash your windows and F your dashboard to take out panels/side mirrors etc, you cannot buy an expensive phone as there is 99.9% chance (if not 100%) that you will be robbed anywhere at anytime, you cannot carry ATM cards as there are regular cases of short-term kidnappings, you will receive bhattay-ki-parchi for any startups you do in business, even a smallest-ranked police-wala on road misbehaves like a boss, no water, no road networks, jungli traffic, no greenery, extremely bad weather, companies are winding up, MNCs have shifted their headquarters, Phd holders are teaching in small schools, no lucks in job switching for already employed etc etc. anyone admit or not, but almost all Karachiites are somewhat thinking about the dark future ahead of them. noone is owning the city.