@otruewarrior
Brother I have read some of your topics and posts, and I am not an expert on these matters, and quite Junior, however, I would like to give you a "Chotay Bhai wala Bradrana Mashwara", please stop posting your personal matters here publicly, and do whatever seems right to you and your family. You are 35 years old man; be a man, and handle each and everything yourself. If you can't handle it by your ownself, discuss your issues directly face to face (or telephonic) with any one of your close friends, relatives, even any member here on this forums, etc. and then take the decision accordingly.
Regarding this topic, if you would like to have your mother soothed and comforted, and your parents and especially mother also want to have you married with her. Then go ahead! Just do whatever your parents want you to do, and care for their happiness and forget yours.
Otherwise, if you would like to have some discussion with that lady, talk to your parents and take them in confidence. Then they may talk to her parents and request them that our son would like to have some conversation with your daughter, and I think, they will happily allow it. No need to go to some hotel, restaurant, etc. or make it like a "Date", you can have any / all converstaion directly face to face with her, even in her own house. And I think, munasib b yei hai, bahir milnay ki bjayeye, unless / until both families are quite close and betakalluff.
Come straight to the point and talk to her. Jo baat aap k dill mein hai, bindaas keh dijeay, and also wait for her response. Ask her to tell you everything openly, and if she is not interested in getting married to you, just forget about her and leave her. Ha'an ub aap apnay parents ko kaisay convince kartay hain k larki ki Izzat hurt na ho, ye aapko daikhna paray ga. Aaj kal ki ladies mein aur aaj sey 30-50 saal pehlay ki ladies k confidence mein bohat farak hai, especially, if one is involved in public dealing job.
If you would like to go slow, you may get her contact no. via her parents or your parents. You may text her, and then depending on her response; call her, and then meet at her place. But try to get this thing sorted out at the earliest. Do not linger it on!
I hope, you will not mind. And if you or anyone finds my post offensive, harsh, rude, etc. please let me know. I will publicly apologize and delete my comment.
I hope, my post helps a bit. Thank you.
