I know what you mean Jeff, when talking about safety and the urge to see village life
Following are my suggestions:
1-NEVER go by train or by bus, its tiring (specially buses are where you cant roam and your legs get numb) time consuming and filthy.
2-Go by air.
3-There is nothing to see in Sindh just Dhool Mitti and Date/palm trees.
4-There is nothing to see in Punjab too just some grass with johar.
5-Go directly to Isl, take taxi to murree, spend a day going for chair lift (its take a day or the better part of it)
6-spend second day morning strolling on Mall road upper area its safe clean and refereshing,
7-spend the night exploring and enjoying crowd on mall road /shopping.
8-On third day go to Nathia gali
9-Go to Kashmir side for 3 days..
10-Everywhere is safe except remote areas and karachi,
11-take loads of books and music you will need them (I went to Quetta alone and it was LONELY....)
Any way Good luck...