It depends on the oil and oil filter both. I usually recommend to go for that scenario, where these both last together. In your scenario, and instead of Toyota Genuine Oil, I would recommend to go for Total Quartz 9000 Future Series 5w-30 along with genuine, OEM oil filter, and change both after 5-6K Kms / when oil becomes dirty (whichever comes first). Also ensure that oil is 100% genuine and original.
OEM ones should easily last ~30-40,000 Kms.
I would suggest to go for Normal Petrol. I have myself experimented with my Vitz 2015 with Hi Octane. Its a waste of money IMO, and does not make much difference, especially in city driving.
Just go for normal fuel by Total, Hascol, Shell, and lastly, PSO, from their company operated / maintained fuel stations.
Transmission Oil may be changed after 40-60,000 Kms.
No need, unless / until they start giving any troubles.
I hope, it helps. Thank you.