What is the right age to get married & have kids?

[asimgujjar]

s55
bro, marriage was against my will, but i tried alot to settle with her but still dnt have understanding between us as she is also uneducated.

[s55]

asimgujjar
What about children?

[asimgujjar]

No children yet. Coz our personal problems can disturb child's life so me myself dnt want child now.

[asimgujjar]

@ shezy_optra_dohc
Bro i ll b 22 on 22nd of this month. i still dnt hav job still doing my BBA.

[s55]

Looks like your life is all set

[hash4u]

@faisi,

u will get remarried easilly and life should be good with a normal person.
for a divorced lady(any ), life is very terrible and harsh(unless she has some Mr X waiting desperately to marry her)

@asim
i am sure in ur case dad is supporting ur finances,all ur little issues. pasand ki shadi mai aisa mazak nahi
u have long way to go ahead u better find a way to live peacefully

[asimgujjar]

@ Hash4u
Yeah u r right bro nd thx 4 support...

@s55
Life is set some how but not in the way which i wanted

[shezy_optra_dohc]

nowadays, most of the guys marry at the age of 28-30 with a girl thats just only 22 or 24. Iv seen 3 cases of the same nature and I am just not ok with, i personally dont like this. And I have to agree with whoever said that people nowadays look for money making machines rather than good sincere guys. What I think is the right thing to do is, finish your Uni, get a decent job, get married within 6-8 months of that with a girl thts just only 2 years younger than you MAX. kids after a couple of years. (Y) btw I think arrange marriages suck a** because you dont know anything about the girl youre marrying, nothing about her past life, how many boyfriends she had or as some idiots may call it LOVERS. haha. you just dont know about their past. I know some girls who had lots and lots of boyfriends, went way over the limits and then got married to someone else. THAT COULD BE YOU !

[shezy_optra_dohc]

shezy_optra_dohc Your teenage will end at 19 boy, the sooner you marry the better you will feel. I guess

To some extent I think youre right, but I think 22 is way too soon to get married. First answer to your parents and if you get married that soon, answer to your wife, I think guys should have a couple of years off you know just to sort themselves out before getting married. btw yeah when you cross this certain age like over 27 or 28 some of the guys just dont want to get married then, so better get married before that.

[TrueEye]

I would say one should get married when one doesnt have anything better to do with his life (than to get laid every night :p), and that I assume would be when someone hits the half century mark..enjoy your life first to the fullest (dont really have to indulge in sinful activities to do that), then when you're done with everything, think about marriage..

[hash4u]

shezy thats not always right.
still compared to arranged marriage, divorce rate is higher in love marriages.

on the lighter side, my barber got his son married. i was congratulating him and looked closely at him, he looked almost around 20.
i asked my barber W.T.F, u lost ur mind?
i can never forget his reply and when ever i think of it i smile.
he said

banday ko jis waqt bhok lagay,us waqt khana daina chahyai.

[shezy_optra_dohc]

Yeah I know because when you date someone before getting married, you show the best of yourself, not the real normal day you. You develop expectations and when you get married it all just seems so changed and when you cant live upto the expectations thats where problems start. both of u complain you dont give eachother the attention you used to give before, accpet it, human nature. YOU GET BORED. you get more hurt because u dint expect anything like that from them.

Not like all love marriages are a failure, I know a couple whos been tgether for 6 years before marriage and now happily married for 15 years with 3 kids.
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[Vajih102]

interesting topic. just wanted to put in that a teacher once said a girl's thinking matches that of a guy 3-4 years her senior. anyhow, i've always loved females two years my senior. always been happy! oh! i ain't married yet but yes, do not fake to be vot i am not which is why we (the girls and i) feel as if we're husband and wife already. reason for telling is all personal experience. only nikkah nama left!!

[c123pk]

banday ko jis waqt bhok lagay,us waqt khana daina chahyai.

Beautifully said (Y)

Nowadays i dunno, but before all these satlellite tv, internet shit, chicks used to be very cautious, they cared about their virginity etc. i dunno whats the trend these days, but i find many little chicks too horny for their age, wearing little clothes with all their ***and *** showing and walk so boldly, confidently, i simply hate them, they dun look pure to me :S

[mrhot2000]

@faisi

well said that is what i expereinced from the expereinces of all those who got married around me.

[c123pk]

oh! i ain't married yet but yes, do not fake to be vot i am not which is why we (the girls and i) feel as if we're husband and wife already. reason for telling is all personal experience. only nikkah nama left!!

dude we can only think of Hell, we cannot even imagine how tough it would be, how tough it would be to burn and burn for thousands of years, May Allah forgive us all and show us the right path, Ameen.

[c123pk]

And yes, we dont care about hell or heaven much, but we forget, we get here, in this world what we deserve, God blesses a man with a woman that is equally good

[needz]

shezy thats not always right. still compared to arranged marriage, divorce rate is higher in love marriages. on the lighter side, my barber got his son married. i was congratulating him and looked closely at him, he looked almost around 20. i asked my barber W.T.F, u lost ur mind? i can never forget his reply and when ever i think of it i smile. he said banday ko jis waqt bhok lagay,us waqt khana daina chahyai.

Hash, yaar in that Case "Humain to Faakon pe hi rakha hoa hay" :S. One of my cousin got married when he was about 19yrs old. Now he has 3 Kids, 1 yr younger than me.

[needz]

But, the sooner the better

[ToofaneBatameezi]

Man is so insecure man!!!